I don't want to go to Taekwondo

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I don’t want to go to Taekwondo

"At First my child was really excited about Taekwondo, but lately when it's time for class he says, "I don't want to go to Taekwondo" Every parent, Anytown, USA

This is not unusual, and it's almost never about the Taekwondo class itself (if there is a specific problem, of course deal with it). Instead, it's almost always about the kid not wanting to be interrupted while doing something else, or not wanting to do much of anything at all. Getting kids to Taekwondo is not much different from getting kids to do other important things (medical and dental visits, personal hygiene, school attendance, home responsibilities, etc.).

Kids need adult help with big decisions. Grown-ups make the final choice on the most important stuff, and must not default to the child ("I won't make him go if he doesn't want to") We adults are responsible for our children's social, athletic, and recreational activities, and yes we must even decide what kind of fun our kids can hove. No child succeeds without long-term adult guidance, structure, commitment, and support.

Taekwondo is hard work. It's not just for fun. Don't wait till it's almost time to go and then make a hasty, impulsive, or emotional decision. Instead, talk with your child before hand. Listen to your child, but remember that as the adult you are the one who make the decision.

If you decide that what your child gets from Taekwondo is important, then be concrete and matter of fact ("we are going to Taekwondo") Know that even when you have to make kids come to class they tend to do just fine once they're here. For some kids a regular schedule is important, for others some variety may help. Perhaps change your schedule, alter what you do before of after class, have a friend or family member watch or take par, arrange a private lesson, Talk with the insturctor.

Take the long view. Make the tough decisions, And let your actions fit your goals.

Grand Master Edmund Ciarfella

United Martial Arts Centers

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